So this chick just gave me her diary to read. It was kind of interesting. Mostly normal chick problems and stuff but amongst the verbal barrage was this revealing little piece of gold:
... he is a sweet person (already a turn off) and we had a really interesting, honest conversation (reminiscent of graceful Jesus) and he is a very good looking person who I am not attracted to but would totally be willing to make out with, preferably drunk.
Let's presume they make out.
This portrait was inspired by a poetic letter from my #1. She is my #1 not because she is pretty and not because of the sex. She is my #1 because she gave me her whole heart, never flaked on me and never bullshitted me.
Here is her letter. This is how all relationships should be:
Dating Paradox #12:
The "one the that got away" is a guy she already rejected.
This is another good example of how women view the world and play the dating game.
When she sees a guy who she turned down out with another girl he changes completely. All of a sudden he is more attractive, she thinks she has made a mistake and because he is now unattainable he "got away".
So some guy she wasn't chasing just got away.
That gives me a bit of brain freeze, but you can make sense of it.
Here is a simple personality test you can use to get a conversation going. It's very short so you can use it in clubs or on the bus or with the waitress or even as an opener. You don't necessarily have to even explain that it is a personality test, just go straight into it.
There are three key questions:
Interpreting her answers is pretty straight forward:
This video is pretty interesting because the girls he interviews are all quite different. Whether or not their advice is good there is one thing they all agree on:
You actually have to get to know the person.
Or at least make her feel like she knows you.
So surprise, surprise this is exactly the same problem you have in day game - because it's really the same game whatever your environment.
Creating attraction, familiarity and keeping her interest in a club full of distractions is not so easy. In fact it's the ultimate test of all your skills and if you can cram it all into a few hours, handle logistics, regularly rinse and repeat AND enjoy the whole the whole game... well...
You probably wouldn't be reading this.
Man, some girls have messed up game. Last night the first group I approached were three Swedish girls in their early twenties. The conversation was boring and soon the hot one decided she'd try to blow me out by pretending she didn't speak English.
So she started speaking to me in French.
Problem is I speak French.
And I also know all Swedish people have good English.
Her French ran out pretty quickly so I just called her out with 'It's okay. I know you speak English' and left the conversation. These girls were pretty clearly out to game guys for free drinks and attention and I wasn't about to waste my time with them.
Scientists from the University of Ottawa and Australian National University have confirmed what the masses have been denying all along. Women are more attracted to men with a bigger package.
In their experiment they showed 105 women full sized computer models of naked men which varied in body shape, height and penis size. The women rated the men's attractiveness as potential sexual partners and the scientists crunched the numbers to come up with the following observations.
The scientists put together this YouTube presentation of the study (view online):
For me the truth behind this joke is not so much that men know nothing about women's game, but how important it is to women that men know nothing about their game. This puts them in a position of power.
Women hack their mate value in order to gain access to men's money and resources. With that in mind it's not surprising that if men knew what was going on they might just decide not to play along.
New Scientist recently published a short article explaining gossip. Here's an extract.
Stripped down, gossip is largely about who is sleeping with who, who would like to sleep with who, and what the local pecking order is in terms of power and influence - which, of course, influences who is sleeping with who.
This explains the purpose of gossip and also the reason for its semi-secrecy and disapproval. In a society where there is competition for mates, it is clearly desirable to know who is available and who is not, who has power and who does not. It is also important not to convey your engagement in the process of assessing these factors since this would alert rivals to your interest. Deniability of interest is therefore part of the process.
So deniability of interest explains why women disapprove of gossip while being the biggest consumers themselves.
Think of it like being at an auction. You want as much inside information on the products as possible but it needs to be gathered in a manner that won't reveal your interest since doing so will just attract unwanted competitors.
That's why girls gossip.
Somewhere deep in their subconscious women all know they're looking for a man to fund their lifestyle. That's why this neg works so well. It sends off an alarm in her brain with a ringtone of "OMG. He knows what I'm up to". And how could he possibly know that unless other women having been playing him too?
Here is how it goes.
You can use it other contexts also.
I call it The Prostitute Neg because of the way it frames women. The "too expensive" response should be delivered with a tone of voice that says "are you crazy?".
Try it out and let me know the results in the comments below.
Here's a transcript of an old text conversation I found archived on my phone.
Me: So if I teach you zouk, what are you going to do for me? I mean, can you cook, sing, or do striptease?
No reply. She didn't buy my alpha asshole game. The shock.
I figured I'd give her a few days, but ended up forgetting about her. Looking back on it I think "what are you going to do for me?" is an epic fail. No-one likes obligations.
Then, two weeks later while browsing my phone for leads (as you do) I found the loose thread and figured it wouldn't hurt to give it another shot before sending her contacts the way of the recycling bin.